About Tilda
My name is Tilda Klumpenaar, a postpartum specialist for mothers who don't feel like they're on cloud nine or as we say in Dutch: “on a pink cloud.” I’m the founder and owner of Frou Frou Begeleiding. I help and support mothers who, during- or after pregnancy, don't feel like they're in a happy bubble. I am 43 years old and a single mom of Livia (10) and Emmi (7).
Tilda Timmers
How It All Began
When I became a mom for the first time in 2014, I wasn’t on cloud nine. In fact, that cloud disappeared during my pregnancy. I was brutally pushed off that pink cloud when my dear grandmother, my role model, my everything, passed away at the age of 88. I used to talk to her about everything and felt completely safe and accepted by her. Suddenly, my grandmother was no longer there.
I made the decision to retrain myself as a therapist and started Frou Frou Begeleiding. My practice is named after my grandmother's favorite cookies (Frou Frou’tjes by Verkade). I also began working on my book, ‘Toen kreeg ik weer lucht’ (‘Then I Could Breathe Again’), to help even more mothers in need. This book was translated three years later (“This is Post Partum”).
Today, I welcome mothers and pregnant women without a pink cloud into my practice daily. I also use my social media platform (@geenrozewolk) to break the taboo surrounding this topic. Because that is much needed. I warmly welcome you to my page and hope you will find recognition and support here.
The grief I felt at that time was indescribable. I was in survival mode, navigating the seven stages of grief while overwhelmed by hormones. On top of that, my delivery was traumatic, and within just a few days, I was already in a deep sinkhole. My life was consumed by intrusive thoughts and an all-encompassing sense of insecurity. I must be the worst mother ever, I thought to myself daily. I cried for hours, felt so alone, and I didn’t dare to talk to anyone about what I was going through. I felt so ashamed and guilty.
Bye to my pink cloud
I Got the Help I Needed
After months of barely keeping my head above wate, I was on the verge of drowning. Fortunately, I found a great therapist who guided me through this dark period. Bit by bit, I started to rebuild myself and rediscover who I was. I became Tilda 2.0, growing both as a person and in my role as a mother. When I began to feel a little better, I wanted nothing more than to help other moms who are going through the same struggles. Even if I help just one mother, I thought as I wrote my first blog. That blog resonated deeply and was well-received. Before I knew it, my inbox was overflowing with messages from mothers sharing similar stories.
Today, I feel confident in my role as a mother. I no longer doubt whether I’m a good mom to my children—I simply feel that I am. I enjoy motherhood, but I’m also honest when I have a rough day. I ask for help when I need it and set boundaries when necessary.
The negative thoughts are a thing of the past, and if one unexpectedly creeps in, I have the right tools to tackle it and let it go. I’m in control of my life, and I want the same for you!
I Decided to retrain myself and started Frou Frou Begeleiding
A Confident Mom
No pink cloud
My mission is to help as many mothers as possible who, during or after pregnancy, don’t feel like they’re on a pink cloud. You are allowed to be honest about how you feel, even if it doesn’t align with what’s considered “normal.” After all, what is “normal” anyway? Who sets that standard or raises the bar so high? Often, as mothers, we unknowingly place that pressure on ourselves.
All mothers should have access to support when they’re not feeling well, no matter the cause. I dream of a world where mothers support one another, connect on a deep level, and no longer fear being judged.
(@geenrozewolk)
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Reizen mijn grootste hobby is en samen met mijn gezin de hele wereld over hoop te reizen
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Als er 90’s hits worden gedraaid op de radio de volumeknop naar rechts gaat en ik spontaan begin te dansen
Als mijn kinderen vragen of ik hun chocolade heb gezien, ik meezoek, terwijl ik hem die avond ervoor heb opgegeten
Ik het liefst in mijn pyjama rondloop en zodra ik de kans krijg, mijn huispak aantrek
