When your relationship suffers after having kids

Many couples have a hard time during that first period, after child birth. Not only because they sleep very little. But, because having a baby, often has a huge impact on both of you as parents. Where you used to be able to go your own way, one of you two is now at home with you child(ren), more often then the other one. This often causes friction while you are adjusting to all tis regarding to parenthood. In addition, you still have to master that new role as a parent. Something, that most new-born mothers and fathers find very challenging at the beginning of parenthood.

Can I take a break?

This is perfectly normal, because the enormous responsibility that you now have for the care of your child (ren) is intense and asks a lot of you on a daily basis. It feels as if you will never “switch off” ever again. The “on button” is in effect and rarely switches off. Many mothers who come to my practice, have one or more issues with their partner. A lot has changed since the birth and there is a lot of pressure on both of your shoulders. There is also more arguing between you two and the atmosphere at home is not always tranquil. Take this from me: a relationship is HARD work. Most certainly, after the arrival of one or more children. People who say it is not, are not entirely honest about this, if you ask me. I don’t know a couple who doesn’t struggle after becoming parents. It such a big adjustment, so it is also completely ok if you don’t like being a parent all the time. Continue reading